Thursday, September 21, 2017
When Fall changes come and the days seem shorter as the number of hours of daylight decrease, many people fall victim to bouts of depression. It's easy to get trapped into the belief that when in a depressed mood, one might never escape. "I've been like this forever." "Nothing ever changes it." "It'll never get better." But typically, moods change and you realize that episodes of depression don't last forever. Depressions lift, moods change, and others will replace them in time.
These consistent human changes are true for anxiety as well. When anxiety surfaces, it can be accompanied by over-generalized thoughts that include word descriptions of "permanence". Such as, "this feeling will never stop", or "I'm always going to be this way." They include words such as, "never", "always", "forever" and "never-ending". But in reality, episodes of anxiety are also not permanent and in time, will change to something else. When experiencing them, you can ease some of your cognitive suffering by reminding yourself, "This won't last forever", "It's not permanent", and, "This feeling will pass or change", etc.
Learning to sit through the discomfort of seasons (or moods) that are not particularly your favorite, is part of accepting reality as it is. Does that mean you should never take medication for depression or anxiety? Not at all. That would be like saying you should never choose to use a blanket in the winter when the temperatures drop. Medication, like a blanket, is a matter of choice, and sometimes survival.
The point is, to try not to get trapped in hopeless internal self-talk in which you convince yourself that whatever discomfort you may currently feel will last forever and that you will be a hopeless victim to it. Just keep in mind that -- like the seasons -- all things change in time. Including your current mood.
Thanks to Bernard Spragg. NZ for the great photo
Thursday, August 17, 2017
It can be very stressful right now for Americans to turn on their TV sets and see an ongoing--and what seems like never-ending--soap opera of daily drama, playing out on the stage of our political arena, and spilling out into the streets of our great nation.
Never-the-less, it's important to keep your senses about you and "Remember who You are". You... are an American citizen!
What does this mean? It means, that each and every one of us must dig deep into our very being and ask ourselves what we are willing to stand up for in this short and limited lifetime. But more importantly, HOW we stand up, and with what morals and ethics will we do so as American citizens... is the more pressing question.
Perhaps you believe in white supremacy, or maybe you are leaning toward socialism these days. We all have our various beliefs in this great country that has fought long and hard to afford us all the right to have the views we so choose. Maybe you are Christian, or maybe you are Atheist, but who you are at the core of your being, will determine whether or not you head into the great streets of this country ready to kill your fellow citizen with guns, or beat your fellow citizen with poles, and bats and pipes, or... if you are the kind of American that has the tolerance to allow others to have their own views as well, in order that yours might also be preserved.
Be proud of your country, but don't forget its foundations. It was built by all of us--free and slave. It has a proud and shameful history, a peaceful and violent history, and a polarized history that has lasted to this very day. And in order to find peace, we must as a nation begin to sort out how to live with these polarizations and the differences that seems to perhaps be a part of nature itself, and therefore will never NOT be a part of us.
Go into the streets as a free American citizen if you feel so compelled--it is your right. In some cases, I even hope you do. But "Remember who You are!" You are an American citizen! Don't go armed into the streets to harm your fellow citizens. Have your voice, and hear the voices of others. But don't insist with the price of death, that you're citizenship, and your voice, be of more importance than the voice and citizenship of your fellow American.
Remember Who You Are!
Thanks to Brett Jordan for the great photo - Lion
Thursday, July 27, 2017
Walking meditation is frequently used between rounds of seated meditation in order to help stretch the body and give it a little break before returning to the meditation mat to sit some more.
However, you can use walking meditation in many different ways. Some find it relaxing and centering to take a break from their busy work day to go to a park and walk the paths, or through the grass, to get a little more focused on the present moment.
Walking meditation can also be used as a way to move the body, yet stay focused on just one thing, such as the sound of the birds as you walk among the trees or just the sound of water if you are walking near a fountain or stream.
You can also practice synchronizing your breath with the walk. Counting "one" as you breath in while stepping with the left foot, and "two" as you exhale and step with the right. Or if you want a faster pace, you can count "one" to inhale as you take several steps, and count "two" for the next several steps. You can also place complete focus and attention on the placement of the foot. Heel, toe... heel, toe... while working to not allow any thoughts or distractions to draw attention away from this mindful task.
You don't have to force yourself to do a meditation that is not comfortable for you. Buddha was meditating in a reclined position when he died. Perhaps you've seen the statue of him lying on his side called the "Reclining Buddha". Some people who find it difficult to sit up during meditation will practice that way (i.e., lying down), and their task is to not fall asleep, but to stay awake and mindful.
So it's the same with walking meditation. If you choose a moving meditation rather than a sitting, or still meditation (such as standing meditation), the task is always the same...to train the mind to remain present and completely aware.
Thanks to World Peace Initiative for the great photo
Wednesday, June 28, 2017
Changes that happen more abruptly are harder on we human beings because we spend a large portion of our time living in a delusion in which we convince ourselves that once things are "good", we can somehow keep them that way, or that change will disappear and happiness will remain.
We seem to want the good things to last forever, and the bad things to end as quickly as possible. So we spend our time striving for things we consider pleasant, and running from things we consider unpleasant.
But here is the truth--and you don't have to believe it from me-- look at it for yourself. Nothing does Not change! Or said differently, Everything changes. Everything!
The torture takes place the most when we try to get things we like to remain indefinitely, and when we try to get things we dislike, to be different from what they are. How many times have you gone back to repeat something fun, only to find yourself disappointed because it "wasn't like last time"?
From the day we are born, until the day we die, change is happening and we suffer the most when we don't want that reality to be true. Instead, learning to move more gracefully with change can increase your sense of well-being and reduce your stress and anxiety.
One way to re-frame this never-ending cycle of change that comes with life, is to think of it more as an "unfolding". When something is unfolding it has a perpetual movement to it. You can label the movement "good" or "bad", but it's not really necessary. It's just what is unfolding. Some of the unfolding is pleasant, and some is unpleasant, but none of these states are permanent. Be it pleasant or unpleasant, it will change. It's only a matter of time.
Thanks to Liz West for the great photo - Melting
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
Today, we are constantly on a time schedule. Be it time to get up, or to be sure we're asleep to get enough rest for the next day. From getting to work on time, to parental schedules of getting kids to school, or soccer games, or to the dentist. Even relaxation coaches and Yoga teachers have to be someplace on time, and though they are not infallible to being late, they might just get there in a completely different way than most of us.
Living in a hurried world can take a toll on our health and eventually our mental and emotional well-being, but since this is the modern world after all, it's also not something we are fully ever going to escape. The reality is that--outside of our need to schedule-in times of rest, vacation and relaxation--we must find ways to cope with a hurried world, and do well to ourselves by approaching our hurry with as much mindfulness and relaxation as possible.
If you think it's not possible to be fully present while rushing through life, take a look at this video of William Polly, a world champion cup stacker. He shows his skill in slow motion as well, which is so fast that you most likely will still find yourself struggling to keep up with what's happening. But if you look at the cup-stacker, he's as calm as can be. Why? Because he's trained himself "three hours a day" to be fully present. That's what training in mindfulness is all about.
If your life and schedule are rushed and hurried, mindfulness practice is all the more important. You will need to be fully present for each of the many things you have packed into your daily schedule. Paying attention to your thoughts, to the present, to your breath, the colors around you, the feel of the temperature around you, etc. Noticing what you see, smell, taste, feel in any given situation. Staying mindful helps your attention no matter what the pace of your life.
Here's a challenge: Sit in a comfortable position. Closer your eyes and relax. Begin to count your breath slowly. One, as you breathe in. Two, as you breathe out. Three as you breathe in, and so on all the way to 10. And then start over at "One". Many people will begin to wander into thoughts and get distracted before they ever reach the number ten. But with practice, you can train your mind to stay present and aware.
It took William "three hours a day" to get present enough to go so fast while stacking cups that when you watch him at full speed, it looks like someone has turned the film speed up to "fast". For him it's "fun", but as he puts it, "it takes a lot of dedication and training".
Thanks to Hamza Butt for the great photos - "worker running with suitcase"
Thursday, April 27, 2017
Mother Earth is the mother of us all. Having given birth to the multitude of things that cling to her surface and swim the depths of her oceans.
There is a peacefulness in views like this one (image left) in which the blue planet glows with the gentle flow of water that makes up most of her surface.
There are many religions scattered among the people of this great planet and everyone seems to have a belief in what it all means, or doesn't mean.
According to Craig A James, author of The Religion Virus, "the earliest beliefs that can be identified as religious are animistic...". He states that "Crops and trees, deer and bears, the sun and moon, rainclouds, a spear or axe - all of the things that were important to people - were imagined to have personalities and motivations."
Many of the earliest beliefs among humans somehow connected to this great planet Earth and to Mother Nature herself. The plants, trees and water were assigned spirits and considered to be alive with the personality of that spirit. But the world is much different now than it once was and the power of belief, unique to human beings, has become a power that can save or destroy this great planet we inhabit.
One way you can help lower your own anxiety about the increasingly, battle-weary clashes in beliefs around the world -- among countries, and inside your own communities, work places, and homes is to take a long look inside your own belief system and ask yourself this: "Am I doing all I can to help bring peace to this world?" "Does anything I consider to be my 'belief', 'faith' or 'doctrine' in life harm other people physically, emotionally, mentally, or psychologically?"
This great Mother Earth is suffering from the result of bickering, fighting, and arguing over differences of view among the people of this world, and because we are a part of her very breath, we are suffering as well. "Earth Day" is and should be "every day" and every breath "you" take, is a breath she takes. Which means, every moment you sit in meditation, she sits in meditation. Every time you work to relax your body and mind, you are relaxing a part of her body and mind. Every gentle thing you do to lower your anxiety, is something you are doing to lower the anxiety of the world. So consider it a global act to work on your relaxation techniques. Finding peace inside yourself, is the first step.
Whatever it is you believe, make sure it takes into account the whole of the planet and not just yourself. Enjoy what Mother Nature has to offer and always act in kindness to her.. your one and only true Mother.
Thanks to Beth Scupham for her great photos - "Earth"
Friday, March 31, 2017
As you can imagine, this is a relaxing form of aroma therapy that has grown in popularity over the years. It's a great way to relax and can make a wonderful addition to a meditative environment or spa-like room.
You can read more about aroma therapy here in my May 2015 blog entry.
If you are looking to create an environment that is suited for relaxation, using a diffuser to disperse your Essential Oils is a great idea. But keep in mind, you can also disperse the aroma by many other means:
*Cotton ball or tissue
*Heated on the stove
*Used in the bath
*A few drops on your furnace filter
*In your Potpourri warmer
**Be sure to always read instructions carefully so you use the appropriate amounts in any of these
Introducing pleasant fragrances to any room can add to the relaxing environment, and we know that certain scents can trigger both memories and moods.
Thanks to Sulen Lee for the great photo